If you are a teenager and currently in a relationship with someone else, be sure to take this quick quiz. All you have to do is answer each of the 26 questions with a YES or NO. Check your score when you are done to determine if you may be seeing warning signs or are in fact in an abusive relationship.
Each statement begins with:
The person I am with…
- is very supportive of things that I do. YES/NO
- encourages me to try new things. YES/NO
- likes to listen when I have things on my mind. YES /NO
- understands that I have my own life too. YES/NO
- is not liked very well by my friends or family. YES/NO
- says I’m involved in too many activities.
- texts or calls me all of the time. YES/NO
- thinks I spend too much time trying to look nice. YES/NO
- gets extremely jealous or possessive. YES/NO
- accuses me of flirting or cheating. YES/NO
- constantly checks up on me or makes me check in. YES/NO
- controls what I wear or how I look. YES/NO
- tries to control what I do or who I see. YES/NO
- tries to keep me from seeing or talking to my family and friends. YES/NO
- has big mood swings – gets angry and yells at me one minute but is sweet and apologetic the next. YES/NO
- tries to keep me away from my family and friends. YES/NO
- puts me down, calls me names or criticizes me. YES/NO
- makes me feel like I can’t do anything right or blames me for problems. YES/NO
- makes me feel like no one would want me. YES/NO
- threatens to hurt me, my friends or my family. YES/NO
- threatens to hurt him or herself because of me. YES/NO
- threatens to destroy my things. YES/NO
- grabs, pushes, shoves, chokes, punches, slaps, holds me down, throws things, or hurts me in some way. YES/NO
- breaks things or throws things to intimidate me. YES/NO
- yells, screams, or humiliates me in front of people. YES/NO
- pressures or forces me into having sex or going farther than I want. YES/NO
If you scored 5 points or more, you are definitely seeing warning signs and may be in an abusive relationship. Remember the most important thing is your safety. Consider making a safety plan right now. You donj’t have to deal with this alone. Talk to an adult that you trust about the situation and create a plan of action that works for you and will keep you safe from harm.
Source: www.loveisrespect.org
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