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An Unlikely Pair: Low Self-esteem and Pride

5 Mar

I’m not sure why these two even hang out.  They don’t appear to have much in common and the way they stick together is nothing short of dysfunctional.  Stick with me while I attempt to describe them and their co-dependent relationship.  

I used to have an opinion that Pride acted like somewhat of a bully convincing Low Self Esteem how much he (Pride)is needed.  Then lately, I decided that maybe it is Low Self-Esteem that is driving the train. 

Their conversation may sound something like this:

Pride:  Look at you Low Self-Esteem, just look at you.  It is clear to me and everyone else that I should step in here and help you out.  You couldn’t defend yourself if your life depended on it.  You are weak and empty and you need me.  If I don’t step out in front of you, then people are gonna see you.  They may laugh or maybe they will end up feeling sorry for you but they definitely won’t choose to be with you.  I’m all you have.

Low Self-esteem:  Well ok, Pride, but make us look good.  Be loud and proud and cause a big scene.  I am pretty sure if you are loud you will be noticed.  If you raise your hands up for emphasis when you speak, it will appear we are really sure of ourselves.  Hold your ground no matter what because we have nothing to lose.  We aren’t worth much value to anyone.  Never have been, probably never will be.

What these two need is an intervention.  They need a third party bystander to step in with some perspective.   I know just what they need.   Enter Spirit.

Spirit:  Hello pride, may I kindly speak with you?  I’d like to point out that while you may believe you are what Low Self Esteem needs, I believe you are making things worse.  In fact, you are not only attempting to cover up Low Self Esteem, you are hurting me in the process.  You see, Low Self Esteem doesn’t need to hide behind Pride to rise up. In fact, you aren’t fooling anyone by making such a ruckus.  Everyone can see right through you to Low Self Esteem.  You are transparent.  I think it is time for you to step aside and let someone else be with Low Self Esteem.  I have been trying for a long time to introduce Low Self Esteem to Self Love.  Take a hike Pride.

Self Love:  Hello Low Self Esteem.  I have been trying to get to you for a very long time.  I am thankful for the Spirit for letting us come together.  I think you are amazing and I can’t wait to see what we can do together to rise up.

Low Self Esteem:  You’ve been waiting to get to me?  But why?  I’m nothing.  Now I am all alone and vulnerable.

Self Love:  This is the perfect time to set Pride aside and focus on you.  Tell me what you need and I am here for you.   We have the Self in common and we will go far together.  And now that Pride is out of the way, your Spirit can be whole again.

Lesson:  Listen to your Spirit.  It is the essence of who you are and knows what you need.  Rid yourself of the all that is not Love.